Positive Pause – 25th July, 2016 – Positive Mindset

positive mindset“You have power over your mind – not outside events.  Realize this, and you will find strength.” Marcus Aurelius. positive mindset

The famous Roman Emperor believed that we are all responsible for finding, creating and maintaining our own happiness.  If we can find strength and peace in ourselves then happiness follows suit.  Aurelius said that “our happiness depends on the quality of our thoughts.”  By allowing our thoughts to be positive even in the face of adversity we can conquer most challenges.

Aurelius practised what he preached and kept a strong positive mindset through great hardships of almost constant wars and disease in addition to losing his parents and brother at a young age.

This week, when faced with a situation that you do not like but have no means to change, accept it in the first place and secondly, decide how you wish to respond.  This is where your positive power lies.

Please take the time to check out my online, self-help program, The Positive Habit.

The Positive Pause – 13th June, 2016 – The Fog Always Clears

fog always clearsWhen you feel down please be kind to yourself. fog always clears

We all have days when it feels like we are struggling under a fog and can’t see clearly.  Often this can be because we are working too hard or simply trying to juggle too many different responsibilities.

This week Dublin was covered in a thick fog coming in from the sea. The famous Poolbeg chimneys in Dublin bay were completely masked by the mist. A visitor who had never seen the city before would not realise that the chimneys were there at all and yet behind all the fog the chimneys were as strong and prominent as always.

This week and every week, if you feel any heavy emotions that seem to cloud your thinking and drain your energy, please remember that underneath it all, you are still there, strong and prominent. The negative feelings will pass and you will soon be restored to your true self.

I cannot emphasise enough how important it is to be kind to yourself in those moments, hours or even days when you feel the weight of the fog. The human instinct is often to try and hide from any emotional pain, to push it down, to avoid it, to block it out in whatever coping mechanism we have learnt; this can often be to eat or drink to escape which, of course, does not work and the fog thickens and lingers longer. Often we will do anything but simply accept it. Show it compassion, accept it for what it is and then let it slowly pass.

The origin of the word emotion comes from the Latin word, ēmovēre which means to move. The fog always clears and emotions always move or pass on.

If and when you feel down or are worried about something, be kind to yourself, accept that the emotion is there for a reason and that it needs your attention and care.  Show yourself compassion and let the emotion move and pass through you. Clarity will soon be restored and you will feel much better.

fog always clears

Positive Pause – 23rd May 2016 – Engage with Life

engage with life“Mum, at what age do you make a will?”

It’s quite a tricky question to answer are the best of times but try a Tuesday morning when you are just awake and you are pre-occuupied with preparing the school lunch and getting ready for the working day ahead! This was the question my eight year old son asked me last Tuesday wide-eyed and innocent.  I think he believed that there was an age that you are required to make a will in much the same way as when you are 18 you are legally allowed to vote.

It may sound like a negative question but the innocence of childhood allows one to see death in a different light. Children can be very matter-of-fact about “delicate” issues that adults often try to skirt around. I believe we have a lot to learn from children on so many levels as they often have the ability to clearly see things as they are.

The cycle of life is quite simple, we are born, we live and then we die. The freedom of being comfortable with our own mortality allows us to really live, to engage fully with life. Ironically, many of us search for certainty in areas of life where this cannot be provided. By contrast, death is a certainty and once this is accepted and embraced with courage and love it gives us the freedom to live.

Have a good week and enjoy each and every precious moment by being fully “awake” to all life offers you.

Engage with life

Positive Pause – 8th February 2016 – It is ok to feel less than 100%

feel less than 100%If you happen to be suffering from a cold, sore throat or upset stomach (as many of us are at this time of year) rather than feeling frustrated and upset that your life has come to a halt, take a moment to accept the physical feelings as a signal that your body is fighting whatever the virus/infection it may have and that it will soon pass. feel less than 100% Acceptance.

When we accept that we may feel less than 100% sometimes and cultivate a belief that our bodies are healing at the right pace for us, we heal quicker. Non-acceptance is resistance and the body has to work twice as hard to get better when we resist the situation. This can also be applied to any unwanted feelings such as tiredness. Breath into the tiredness and take a few moments to accept that you are tired now but know that this will soon pass with rest and acceptance.